So today’s post is going to analyze the answer to a question that everyone faces sometime in their life:
When should you be sure about what you want to do with your life?
This is a question I find myself thinking about very often. I’m still very young to be seriously concerned about it, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t thought about my future. I’m a very optimistic person, but at the same time I’m a huge worrier. I basically stress about stress even before there’s stress to stress about. So naturally, I worry a lot about the fact that I’m still not sure about what kind of career path I want to take. Up until a few months ago, I was 100% set on the idea of wanting to go into the medical field and study to become a pediatrician. But then I had a sudden realization: I’m actually not interested in anything a doctor deals with in their everyday job. Like what kind of doctor isn’t interested in biology? THAT’S LITERALLY WHAT A DOCTOR’S JOB IS ALL ABOUT. And that led me to thinking…If I’m not going to be a doctor, what else is there for me to be?
The answer to that might seem very simple, I mean there’s so many good jobs out there besides a doctor. Engineer? Architect? Lawyer? Fashion designer? But the thing is, I’ve been dreaming about being a doctor literally my whole life. Ever since I was younger, my whole family saw me as a future doctor and nothing else. So as a result, I couldn’t even imagine being anything else. I had been so blinded by how successful I would be if I was a doctor that I hadn’t even stopped to think about what exactly a doctor has to do. What a student has to study to go into the medical field and just how much hard work it requires to finally get there. And then after all these years spent dreaming about my future as a pediatrician living in a huge house with a loving family, I finally asked myself – Do I really have what it takes to become a doctor? Yes of course I do, anyone can achieve anything if they put their mind to it. But the thing is, do I have the ambition to actually put my mind to it? Do I have enough motivation to get through all those years of medical school? Am I really that inspired to where I can make it out alive and end up happy with my job? And happy not because of how much money I’m making, but because of what I’m actually going to work everyday and doing?
Well, when you put it like that…no. I don’t think so. But if not doctor, what else? Sure, I’ve thought about other career options, but nothing is set in stone. In fact, not even close to set in stone. Honestly, I don’t even know what it is that I want to set in stone.
See, I’m a confident girl. Like I’m perfectly fine with the way I look and act in front of both myself and the general public. I embrace who I am and I’m comfortable in my own skin. BUT at the same time, there are certain aspects about either myself or my life that I’m somewhat insecure about. And my future career plans are like 95% of those aspects.
But the thing is, I’m happy with my life. Yes, I’m nervous about being unsure about my future, but that doesn’t bother me to the point of affecting my current performance. I mean there are plenty of times late at night when I’m lying in bed staring up at the ceiling and trapped with only my thoughts about my life goals. But I still wake up the next morning ready to take on the world and perfectly content with where I am and what I’m doing with my life. (At least that’s the case most days, I mean everyone has days where all they want to do is sit in bed and watch Friends reruns for ten hours).
The point is, right now I’m not sure what exactly I want to do with my life but I’m okay with that. I’m fine with not knowing because what I do know is that as long as I do what makes me happy and I make the most of the opportunities I come across in my life right now, I’ll end up just fine in the future.
But there are some people out there who seem to have it all figured out. They know exactly what they want out of life and exactly how they’re going to get it. They’re extremely confident about both their present and future and feel that they’re playing their cards perfectly right now and therefore their future will be filled with nothing but success in all areas of life. And that’s great, like I don’t have a problem with ambitious people who must be doing something right if they are that certain about their future. However, I do have a problem when those ambitious people come over into my life and try to “fix” it. Just because I’m not sure about what I want to do with my life doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me. It’s only a real problem when not being sure starts to affect your health and motivation to continue exploring life. I know it’s all done with good intentions, but others should understand that it’s my life and it’s my job to learn from the mistakes I make. How else will I know what decisions to avoid making in the future if I don’t learn from the prior failed results? Sometimes stepping back and allowing someone to figure out the important lessons in life on their own is the best way you can help them in the long run.
So getting back to the original question – when should you be sure about what you want to do with your life? There’s no right answer. Everyone figures out what they want to do and where they want to go in life at their own time. Whether you’re sure about what kind of career you want to pursue at five years old or you finally figure it out at 30, just know that things change. You can never predict what the future will hold for you and getting caught up in not knowing will only cause unnecessary stress. The best thing you can do right now if you’re not sure is go outside and explore the different career paths. Sure, you might not know exactly what you want to pursue, but I’m sure you have interests. Embrace them! There’s plenty of opportunities to learn about the world around you so you should do you’re best to seize them and take charge of your life right now so you’ll have an optimistic mindset for the future.
So basically, you’re not alone if you don’t know what you want to do. In fact, far from it. But just know that one day you’ll figure it out so just make the most of your life right now. Do what makes you happy and slay at whatever that is.
Until next time!